There is a real group of “different” men, those that like to
wear women’s clothing – the cross dresser.
When the man turns out to be “your husband” falling within this group, The Cross Dresser’s Wife, by Dee A. Levy
and B. Sheffield Hunt, is the resource you need which is written to help guide
you through the stages of confusion, depression, and anxiety all too common
among women shocked by this harsh realization.
The Cross Dresser’s
Wife - Our Secret Lives is a tool published for those women that need to
seek out the help of other women that have been going through the same painful
process of trying to understand their husband’s desire for such taboo behavior,
or such a sexually deviated desire. The
book cites five true stories of women, each describing their firsthand account
of emotions and circumstances experienced upon realizing the man they married
had this hidden secret.
The stories within this book lack the obvious alternative
for the wife to “cut their losses and leave,” as help is the underlying
theme. Help to those affected by the
actions and consequences of having a husband, who is basically a good person,
albeit with a psychological problem resulting in the desire to wear women’s
clothing beyond their willingness to stop – even when pleaded to change by
their wives. Those men who knew of the
hurt their hidden desire would have on their wife simply went “underground” by
hiding their bizarre braziers, undetected underwear, perturbed panties, and
misstated motivations.
Although written primarily as a resource for wives of CDH’s,
the appeal of this book does have a bit of a broader audience, such as those
who would be interested to view an Oprah
or Dr. Phil episode titled, “I
Unknowingly Married a Cross Dresser.” To
those who have a CD in their family, this book, is designed to draw them in,
opening a channel for dialogue and offering help and guidance through the
stages of understanding necessary to cope with such behavior. Although, I personally feel this sort of
situation would never happen to me, the thing that struck me was the same
belief predominately existed within the normal dating and pre-marital
relationships each of the women had with their spouse. It seemed as if once the knot was tied, the
man’s id revealed itself in a way,
step-by-step, either to seek acceptance and consent by their spouse, or to go
underground with his clandestine desire.
The Cross Dresser’s
Wife – Our Secret Lives is a thoroughly engaging book it is a
must-read for anyone either integrated in or tangentially affected by gender
issues of any and all kinds. While it is
likely that some who read this book will not agree with everything in it, it is
precisely this honesty and frankness which makes The Cross Dresser’s Wife very useful because it certainly will spur
the readers to think and reflect on their own experience.
