Frank Zaccari talks first hand in his narrative story about
his life, wife, and children in his candidly revealing tell-all book titled When The Wife Cheats.
It takes two to Tango. Googling the “Infidelity Statistics” shows that 22 percent of married
men have strayed at least once during their married lives, however an
astonishing 14 percent of married women have done the same. With the often all too common news of high
profile men committing adultery, somehow the “other side of the coin” is less
often discussed. What is even less
common is for the man to come forward with his perspective about the events,
partly because if reflects negatively on his machismo.
Frank Zaccari tells a great story – or perhaps I should
rephrase it as a sad story told with great technique. The book started off as a love story with hot
& heavy sexual attraction, a predator & prey duel of seductiveness, a
welcoming of each other’s life and togetherness. What overweighed certain “red flags” was
testosterone, which often is the case in human males – need I say more? Tony and Denise, the character names, seem
appropriately matched for each other. He’s
an up-and-coming high tech executive and she’s a hot and sassy office
worker. From the onset they orbit closer
and closer until they become a “secret love affair” behind the backs of other
co-workers. Denise comes from a strong
Catholic background, where she, as a teenager would sneak out of her home at
night to party in the city, returning before her parents would awake. Tony was a straight shooting male wanting to
have Denise as his trophy wife – and to do what most men do with trophies –
mount’em. Right there was the
foreshadowing of a disaster; a woman turned on by secret love affairs (even
harmless ones from co-workers), and someone who lies to her parents, the people
closest to her.
The book goes into detail of instances reflecting on the
character values of Tony and the frustrations building up within Denise until
the inevitable breach of trust, the extramarital affair occurs. Some of this detail could have been
eliminated and the story would carry forth just fine, however I believe it made
Frank Zaccari feel good writing it as much as it was interesting to read.
The saddest ramification of this dysfunctional marriage is
what happened to the two girls, Courtney and Nicole, their daughters. It’s one thing for a woman to hurt a husband,
but I became so angry reading the second half of the book dealing with the pain
and torment caused to the girls that each time I turned the page I felt like
ripping it out of the book. The book has
shifted from a love story to one of human selfishness at its worst.
Frank Zaccari writes at the end of his book, “There comes a
point in your life when you realize; who matters, who never did, who won’t
anymore, and who always will.” He
continued, “So don’t worry about people from your past; there’s a reason they
didn’t make it to your future.” Most
interestingly the book has an epilogue with revealing essays from the daughters’
perspective.
Frank Zaccari’s wish is his work will show the pain and
suffering brought into a family by a cheating spouse, and that he does
achieve. I would consider this book to
be a sobering and highly charged story touching upon elements of marriage so
apparent to the “outside observer” but impossible to see by the couple
affected. By reading this book, a couple
with an infidelity problem may be able to abate their course of action, heal
with true forgiveness, and move on – especially for the sake of the children.
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